Change is a funny thing. Not everyone can handle it. It can sneak up on you. Things aren't what they use to be. Your whole world is transformed. You realize the ground beneath you has shifted. Things are uncertain. And there's no turning back. The world around you is different now. Unrecognizable and there's nothing you can do about it. You're sick. The future staring you in the face and you're not sure you like what you see. Like I said; I'm not big into change. -Alex Karev
Still amazes me, surprisingly, how accurately this show continues to fit my life. It's February. We all know how I feel about February...
Showing posts with label February. Show all posts
Showing posts with label February. Show all posts
Saturday, February 9, 2013
Wednesday, February 15, 2012
Fuck February...
February fucking sucks. I don't hate a lot of things. Not REALLY, anyway. February is one of them, though. Even the name makes me want to punch puppies in the face. February. Blah. It tastes like acid in my mouth. Its really no secret that of all the months in the year, this 28 day (or sometimes 29-which is another reason I hate this month-why the hell does it get to choose how many days it has???) block is my least favorite. I always get sick in February and so far I have been sick the whole month. The time without sunlight becomes more than draining for me. I feel like each passing minute of darkness is literally eating away at my soul.
Speaking of souls reminds me of soul mates. I think I found mine. He shares all the same sentiment about February as me and I am super jealous I didn't make this video first.
Fuck off, February. You suck.
Speaking of souls reminds me of soul mates. I think I found mine. He shares all the same sentiment about February as me and I am super jealous I didn't make this video first.
Fuck off, February. You suck.
Thursday, February 2, 2012
#TWM...Life is a gift. Accept it...
Your life is a gift. Accept it, no matter how screwed up or painful it seems to be. Some things are going to work out as if they were destined to happen. As if they were just meant to be. -Meredith
March 1st will mark 3 years since I lost my dad, the man that was the rock in my life, to leukemia. The very last thing he said to me, just hours before he died was, "Life has a funny way of working out, KB." At the time I thought he meant 'funny' as a bad thing. His way of referring to the fact that he was indeed going to die, despite the extraordinary efforts put into saving his life. I now believe differently. I believe now, after 3 very painful years where I have made so many mistakes-mistakes I now know were necessary for my growth into a better, more mature, more thoughtful and reserved person-I believe now that what he meant was despite all the horrible fucking things that happen in this life, happiness is still possible. After moving on, healing and becoming whole again, happiness DOES exist. It can exist in even the most cynical of hearts and minds.
I believe that good or bad, all things happen for a reason and I believe what you gain in the end of it all is definitely a positive. Always a positive, even if you don't see it. Because some things? Some things work out as if they were just meant to be.
March 1st will mark 3 years since I lost my dad, the man that was the rock in my life, to leukemia. The very last thing he said to me, just hours before he died was, "Life has a funny way of working out, KB." At the time I thought he meant 'funny' as a bad thing. His way of referring to the fact that he was indeed going to die, despite the extraordinary efforts put into saving his life. I now believe differently. I believe now, after 3 very painful years where I have made so many mistakes-mistakes I now know were necessary for my growth into a better, more mature, more thoughtful and reserved person-I believe now that what he meant was despite all the horrible fucking things that happen in this life, happiness is still possible. After moving on, healing and becoming whole again, happiness DOES exist. It can exist in even the most cynical of hearts and minds.
I believe that good or bad, all things happen for a reason and I believe what you gain in the end of it all is definitely a positive. Always a positive, even if you don't see it. Because some things? Some things work out as if they were just meant to be.
Friday, February 11, 2011
Is it April yet...
February is weird for me.
Feb 1 marked 2 years since the last time I saw my dad healthy and alive. It was Super Bowl Sunday 2009. I have very vivid memories of this day. Dad brought shrimp cocktail. Kraft cocktail sauce, which I loathe. He wore a red, button down, thick cotton shirt, Levis and the cowboy boots he bought in Murphreesboro, TN in 2007 (when we drove down to see my great grandpa Meyers, who wanted to meet my children).
Emma stood naked in those boot before bathtime that day. Springsteen did the halftime show. My parents left after that.
2 days later dad got news that his cancer was back and was admitted at NWM. It was all downhill from there. The next time I saw him was 2 weeks after that when he was moved to ICU with a mild brain bleed from a fall while trying to use the restroom by himself. I believe the time spent in the neuro ICU is the reason he is dead today. He got C-diff, a violent stomach/intestinal/colon super bug. I went to visit because the c-diff had become so bad they didn't believe he would make it. He eventually got moved back to the cancer floor, his body ravished from the fight with a deadly bug, doing so with an immune system that was non existent. His survival through this alone was a miracle. He was so sick during my visit that he barely lifted his head to acknowledge my presence. He smiled when I walked in and 20 minutes later I had to leave because he'd become so violently ill and I had my 6 month baby (L, who was still without heart repair and highly susceptible to all viruses) with me. I had to pick my infant's health over my own needs to be by my dad's bedside. This would prove to be the first of three similar instances over the next 2 weeks.
I talked to my dad multiple times, every day he was hospitalized throughout his battle with leukemia. That didn't change over the next 2 weeks. He progressively sounded worse on the phone. He had always, ALWAYS wanted to talk to me. About the kids, about my life, about our shared character...traits. His desire to talk to me every day diminished rapidly. One day we laughed over the antics of my then 2yr, 18 and 6 month old. The very next day, I called, a nurse held the phone to his ear and all he said was, "God, I love those kids, KB." (his nickname for me).
February 25 at 2am my youngest child was admitted to CHW, 100 miles from my dad at NWM, with a severe respiratory virus that caused his O2 sats to plummet under 75%. He required regular breathing treatments and around the clock monitoring. I couldn't leave his side. 2 days later I received a call at the hospital from my mom telling me my dad was coming home on hospice care and that his survival through the weekend was unlikely.
I relayed this information to the nurses and doctors tending to my son....the events of the next 36 hours are too raw for me to share. In the shortest version possible, I got my son discharged Saturday at noon and drove the 100 miles to the home I grew up in; the home I would watch my 48year old father die in.
Sunday, March 1, 2009. 5:55pm. I grasped my dad's hand and told him that I could tell he was in pain. That, if he were ready, he needed to let go. Not to worry about us, because I knew that is the only reason he was holding on. That we would be OK. That I loved him. I'd miss him. Every. Single. Day.
I kissed him, let his hand go into my little brother's and walked into the next room to hug my kids and nurse my baby.
No sooner did I sit down and my husband came running into the room, "GO! Now!" he said to me. I ran back into the room in time to see life leave my dad. It was 6:01pm.
I could write pages and pages on the events of that weekend. But those memories are mine. Mine to keep, mine to share privately with the people I choose. That weekend forever changed my life. My faith. The faith of my husband.
Dad brought shrimp cocktail to that last Super Bowl. Tonight a very dear friend served it at dinner at its right at the time of year I struggle most to get out of bed, since dad's death.
I miss him. I miss him all the time. Everyday. I still cannot walk into my parent's house and not see him sitting in the living room. I don't even have to close my eyes and I hear his laugh, his voice. I can see him almost everywhere I go. I still haven't figured out how to exist in a world where my dad doesn't.
But I do. I do exist and the world didn't stop turning even though my life did.
And that is why February is weird. And I hate winter even more now that I did before.
So, if you happen to spend time with me. And if you're someone that knows me well and you notice I don't quite seem like myself, please remember my heart hurts. It hurts every day. Most days I make it through because I have God and my kids and my husband and my mom. Some days though? Some days I'm only as human as God made me.
Feb 1 marked 2 years since the last time I saw my dad healthy and alive. It was Super Bowl Sunday 2009. I have very vivid memories of this day. Dad brought shrimp cocktail. Kraft cocktail sauce, which I loathe. He wore a red, button down, thick cotton shirt, Levis and the cowboy boots he bought in Murphreesboro, TN in 2007 (when we drove down to see my great grandpa Meyers, who wanted to meet my children).
Emma stood naked in those boot before bathtime that day. Springsteen did the halftime show. My parents left after that.
2 days later dad got news that his cancer was back and was admitted at NWM. It was all downhill from there. The next time I saw him was 2 weeks after that when he was moved to ICU with a mild brain bleed from a fall while trying to use the restroom by himself. I believe the time spent in the neuro ICU is the reason he is dead today. He got C-diff, a violent stomach/intestinal/colon super bug. I went to visit because the c-diff had become so bad they didn't believe he would make it. He eventually got moved back to the cancer floor, his body ravished from the fight with a deadly bug, doing so with an immune system that was non existent. His survival through this alone was a miracle. He was so sick during my visit that he barely lifted his head to acknowledge my presence. He smiled when I walked in and 20 minutes later I had to leave because he'd become so violently ill and I had my 6 month baby (L, who was still without heart repair and highly susceptible to all viruses) with me. I had to pick my infant's health over my own needs to be by my dad's bedside. This would prove to be the first of three similar instances over the next 2 weeks.
I talked to my dad multiple times, every day he was hospitalized throughout his battle with leukemia. That didn't change over the next 2 weeks. He progressively sounded worse on the phone. He had always, ALWAYS wanted to talk to me. About the kids, about my life, about our shared character...traits. His desire to talk to me every day diminished rapidly. One day we laughed over the antics of my then 2yr, 18 and 6 month old. The very next day, I called, a nurse held the phone to his ear and all he said was, "God, I love those kids, KB." (his nickname for me).
February 25 at 2am my youngest child was admitted to CHW, 100 miles from my dad at NWM, with a severe respiratory virus that caused his O2 sats to plummet under 75%. He required regular breathing treatments and around the clock monitoring. I couldn't leave his side. 2 days later I received a call at the hospital from my mom telling me my dad was coming home on hospice care and that his survival through the weekend was unlikely.
I relayed this information to the nurses and doctors tending to my son....the events of the next 36 hours are too raw for me to share. In the shortest version possible, I got my son discharged Saturday at noon and drove the 100 miles to the home I grew up in; the home I would watch my 48year old father die in.
Sunday, March 1, 2009. 5:55pm. I grasped my dad's hand and told him that I could tell he was in pain. That, if he were ready, he needed to let go. Not to worry about us, because I knew that is the only reason he was holding on. That we would be OK. That I loved him. I'd miss him. Every. Single. Day.
I kissed him, let his hand go into my little brother's and walked into the next room to hug my kids and nurse my baby.
No sooner did I sit down and my husband came running into the room, "GO! Now!" he said to me. I ran back into the room in time to see life leave my dad. It was 6:01pm.
I could write pages and pages on the events of that weekend. But those memories are mine. Mine to keep, mine to share privately with the people I choose. That weekend forever changed my life. My faith. The faith of my husband.
Dad brought shrimp cocktail to that last Super Bowl. Tonight a very dear friend served it at dinner at its right at the time of year I struggle most to get out of bed, since dad's death.
I miss him. I miss him all the time. Everyday. I still cannot walk into my parent's house and not see him sitting in the living room. I don't even have to close my eyes and I hear his laugh, his voice. I can see him almost everywhere I go. I still haven't figured out how to exist in a world where my dad doesn't.
But I do. I do exist and the world didn't stop turning even though my life did.
And that is why February is weird. And I hate winter even more now that I did before.
So, if you happen to spend time with me. And if you're someone that knows me well and you notice I don't quite seem like myself, please remember my heart hurts. It hurts every day. Most days I make it through because I have God and my kids and my husband and my mom. Some days though? Some days I'm only as human as God made me.
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